Wedding Guest Etiquette

by Super Coupon Lady on May 26, 2014 · 25 comments

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Wedding Guest Etiquette

It’s that time of year, when the sun and flowers bloom and you have lots of weddings on your event calendar. Before you send back your RSVP and slip on your hose, here are the essential Wedding Guest Etiquette that every wedding attendee should adhere to. I am crazy about weddings and have researched and researched and attended and attended many weddings. Here are some simple Wedding Guest Etiquette tips to follow.

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Wedding Guest Etiquette:

1) Always RSVP by the Date requested on the invitation. This allows the Bride and Groom to prepare for all their guest – food, drinks, seating, etc! If you aren’t sure if you can attend or don’t know if you can get a babysitter by the RSVP date, then I’m sorry to say this but you must respond No.

2) Never, did I say Never, wear white to a wedding! I know some etiquette books say it’s fine to wear white to a wedding, but trust me – it’s NOT! The bride will not be happy with you. If your dress is off-white, beige, white with a colored belt – Do Not Wear It! Ok, I think we got that clear.

3) Just bring yourself if you are the only one named on the invite. If you did not receive a +1 on your invite then don’t bring a date. If your wedding invitation includes your entire family – kids too – then children are allowed at the wedding. If

your invite does not say “family or name your children” then please do not call the bride and ask her if children are allowed at the wedding.

4) Drink in moderation. Just because there’s an open bar, doesn’t mean that you need to go overboard with your drinking. Remember this is the bride and grooms special day.

5) Go easy with the cell phone pictures. It’s totally fine to snap a picture of two of the events going on, but please use common courtesy. Stay out of the way of the paid professional photographer, don’t get in front of people wanting to see the ceremony and respect the bride and grooms wishes if they don’t want pictures posted on social media or taken during service. Remember you are there to enjoy their day and enjoy yourself, you’re not working for OK! Magazine.

6) Gifts! This is a biggie! Two Tips: If you do buy a large gift then please have it mailed to the bride and groom. No one wants to have to haul a bunch of heavy gifts around (this will usually be job of the maid of honor and she will thank you very much for mailing these gifts!). Tip #2, if the couple isn’t registered, you did not attend a shower or they did not put the registry information in the invite – then they want CASH! Yes, cold hard cash – a check would do nicely too!

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7) Keep the conversation with the Bride and Groom Brief! I know you are so super excited that your dear friends/family member has gotten married, but these two have an entire room to work! Express your congratulations, let the bride know she looks stunning and more on! Know they love you and appreciate that you came, they just don’t have time to have a long conversation with you. Have a wonderful time and that will mean the world to them!

Do you have any etiquette rules to add to my list? Share them in the comments below.

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Ariana May 26, 2014 at 11:40 pm

Love this! Not many people know wedding guest etiquette!

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Alexandra McAllister May 27, 2014 at 7:42 am

This is a great list! So many people do not know the proper wedding guest etiquette! I feel that #4 is so important! A guest drinking too much can really make everyone feel uncomfortable. Thanks for sharing this post.

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Super Coupon Lady May 27, 2014 at 11:06 am

So true Alexandra! Moderation is the key!

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Heather May 27, 2014 at 10:28 am

Love this! I have been so so many weddings where people just act like it is their day and not the bride and groom’s.

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Lena May 27, 2014 at 11:10 am

Love this – need to a send this to a friend who is getting married

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Our Family World May 27, 2014 at 11:52 am

I have not gone to many weddings so tips like this are great.

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MzBaker May 27, 2014 at 1:30 pm

I don’t do weddings really, but we have one coming up for my nephew and I will keep in mind about photos, but I will take tons lol I can’t help it.

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Kelly Hutchinson May 27, 2014 at 2:04 pm

What a lot of great tips! I especially appreciate the tip about making the talk time with the bride and groom short. So many people and so little time for them!

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Reese May 27, 2014 at 3:53 pm

Sorry but its bad wedding etiquette to put registry info on the invite so number 6 isn’t entirely accurate- you should find out if they have registry (search or ask a family member). Its tacky to put registry info on an invite.

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KW May 27, 2014 at 6:01 pm

Here is another tip: if your young child(ren) are invited to the wedding and they start to cause a disruption during the ceremony, don’t just sit there get up and take your child out so others around you can enjoy the ceremony.

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Super Coupon Lady May 27, 2014 at 6:38 pm

That is very true KW! Great tip! Thanks for adding it!

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MomStart May 27, 2014 at 7:37 pm

Good tip – it’s important to be thoughtful when you help the bride and groom celebrate their special day!

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Heather Hernandez May 27, 2014 at 8:17 pm

I love to see etiquette posts like this – because I’m usually totally clueless about what to wear/what not to wear, etc.

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Misty Battle May 27, 2014 at 8:53 pm

Great tips. Most people don’t know these and people need to brush up. Thank you for sharing.

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Chrysa May 27, 2014 at 9:25 pm

I would add do NOT change the seating chart!! Sit at your assigned table. If you want to move around and visit with someone at other tables after dinner, that’s fine. But wait until then!

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Super Coupon Lady May 28, 2014 at 11:34 am

Yes, just because you didn’t get seated next to someone you wanted to please don’t change the seating chart! I’m sure the B&G spent lots and lots of time figured that out. Great ip Chrysa! Thank you!

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mercy May 27, 2014 at 10:35 pm

Do NOT, I repeat do not walk in late to the church ceremony specially if you see the wedding march i s on and the bride is marching down the isle, specially not by the same door she is coming in. That happened to me. I could see people on the video walking in late.

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Super Coupon Lady May 28, 2014 at 11:35 am

HUGE! That is HUGE!! Just common courtesy! Thank you for adding that one Mercy! I’m so sorry that happened to you! Hope you wedding was Fabulous otherwise!

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Emily May 28, 2014 at 12:09 am

These are good to know. I wasn’t sure about some of them!

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Amee May 28, 2014 at 4:42 am

Love your tips!

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Danielle May 28, 2014 at 5:23 am

I probably could have used this at the last wedding I was invited to. I drank way too much wine with my other best friend and the bride (also my best friend) and we spent the entire night doing ballet on the dance floor and we are not ballerinas. However we are all sailors (US COAST GUARD) so I guess we did what sailors at a sailors wedding would do….hehehe

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Super Coupon Lady May 28, 2014 at 11:36 am

Live and learn Danielle! I’m sure it was ok because the bride was right there with you. Sounds like you all had a great time! 🙂

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Nicole @ Confectionalism May 28, 2014 at 11:12 am

This is a well composed post. I think too many people are unaware of proper etiquette when at a wedding. I especially like the tip to moderate the amount of cell phone pictures. The photographers need to be able to work. Thank you for sharing!

-Nicole @ http://www.confectionalism.com

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Super Coupon Lady June 3, 2014 at 8:48 pm

Great tips Helen!

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J September 15, 2015 at 12:57 pm

Great advice. Hopefully people read it and apply

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